I can hear the music as I walk in. The sound is blaring, but I like it. It is country music after all, my favorite. Wooden floors creak as I step in, but the sound dies down as my eyes take over. A plethora of people wearing cowboy hats offer a warm smile, including the young man at the register.
“It’s $5, and I need to see your ID,” he says.
I dig deep in my purse, my fingers grab hold of something.
Old receipts. Hmm… I need to throw these away.
Finally, I find it. I open my wallet, pull out my driver’s license and hand it over.
“Texas?” he says with an eyebrow raised.
“Oh yes, born and raised!” I exclaim, my Texas pride clearly visible.
“So what are you doing here in Connecticut?”
“Oh, I mostly moved here for work,” I tell him.
It’s been more than 2.5 years, and I still haven’t updated my license.
He smiles, hands over my ID, and now I’m free to dance and meet up with friends. I tuck my wallet back inside my purse and walk away.
Why do I have such a difficult time with “identities?”
An Identity Crisis
Have you ever faced an identity crisis? I have, and I’m not just talking about my license, I’m talking about my livelihood.
See, that example very much reminded me of an identity crisis I faced a while back. Over the course of the past couple of years God has stripped me of everything and everyone I ever held onto. It was then I realized how much I based my worth, my value, my identity, upon everything and everyone BUT Him.
I defined myself by what a person thought of me.
I defined myself by the success of my career.
And when my circumstances changed – I crumbled.
I had an identity crisis.
It’s so easy to base our identity on our careers, relationships, where we live, the money we take home, the mistakes of our past. We often define ourselves by how society defines us. The problem is that when we lose our job, when relationships end, when our home goes under foreclosure, when the money we take home dwindles and when our past haunts our future – we begin to question ourselves.
We feel like damaged goods, valueless.
We feel insecure and vulnerable.
But when we base our worth on who God says we are, everything around us can shake, yet we’re able to stand firm. With an identity in Christ, we’re able to tear down strongholds and strip away labels.
It’s not who you are but whose you are.
It’s not what you did but what He did.
Who we are derives from who God says we are, not society.
The Bible says we are, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm, 139:14)
The Bible says we are, “chosen, holy and blameless before God.” (Ephesians 1:4)
The Bible says we are, “an incredible work of art.” (Ephesians 2:10)
When we grab hold of that truth, and truly let it sink in, we’re no longer susceptible to believing the lies of who other people say we are. We know and believe that our identity is in Christ, and nothing and no one can change that. We’ll no longer face an identity crisis. Instead, we’ll see an identity breakthrough.
An Identity Found
For me to have a solid perception of who I am in Christ, I had to overcome this “identity crisis.”
The more I dug into the truth of who God says I am, the more I know who I am.
Now, when circumstances around me change, I no longer crumble.
When rejection comes knocking at my door, it no longer steals my confidence. My world may shake yet I am steady.
I pray we all begin to see ourselves through the eyes of God. May we all have an identity, not planted by the words of others, but rooted in God’s truth, so when storms threaten our livelihood, we can stand tall, with the word of God entrenched into the very soil of our own heart.
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